Over the last year and a half, I have worked really hard to get my out of control weight down. I was actually only 25-30 pounds away from my goal weight when I got pregnant. Now I know you can't lose weight while pregnant and in fact about the only time the doctors encourage it full force. So one would think I would be all over that right? I mean I've been overweight for a very long time...why wouldn't I be ok with an excuse to not have to hard core exercise every single day and eat nothing but chicken, fish and salad? and hearing the doctors actually say "yay you gained 5 pounds...great!"
But its not like that! can I tell you I have had one of the hardest times ever accepting the scale and the off hand comments insensitive people make about getting big. I know people think its ok cause hey...you're suppose to be getting bigger. You're growing a baby for goodness sakes! I should understand that!! but no, every time someone says, even jokingly, that my butt is big or I need more room in the car, or comment on how I"m starting to waddle....its not cute.
Most of the time I can laugh it off with them, ignore it or just let it fume and then fizzle out....but sometimes, especially on a particularly emotional day or when I just dont' feel that attractive that day, it just gets to me and then I start crying and of course makes me even more angry cause I'm crying over something trivial.
I don't know why this didn't bother me as much the first time around. probably cause I was already HUGE and didn't care that I was, wasn't particularly in the mood or mind set to be healthy and hadn't worked so hard to get the weight off, so I simply didn't notice or care about the comments. I also think I'm just tired right now and this is the month where the baby doubles in size so of course I double in size and the comments come so I hear it more often. I just needed to let it out and I'm sure I"m guilty of doing it to other pregnant woman and you just simply dont' think about the effects....but I will from now on.
I don't see how telling a woman her butt is getting bigger is funny under any circumstance. Ever. I think it's innappropriate and rude and you have a right to be offended. I wonder if you could make them realize that by saying something directly like, "That was a hurtful comment. It wasn't funny." or "Just because I'm pregnant doesn't give you the right to say hurtful things." Seriously, there's no excuse for that.
ReplyDeleteI for one don't think you look like you did when you struggled with your weight. You carry it completely differently. I think you look beautiful, and so does Brian. Everyone else can fly a kite.
I agree with Deborah and to me you are always beautiful no matter what, hands down.
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