Never thought

When you become a parent, you expect to give your children various types of talks throughout their childhood... Attitude talk, Responsibility talk, Stranger danger talk, Puberty talk, Making important decisions talk....I'm sure there are many many more. Never in my time as a mother did I think I was going to have to tell my children the Family Danger talk.

The twins biological mother has been in and out of the twins life for the past six years...more out then in. She stopped coming for visitations at the end of January and we haven't heard from her since. We get various tidbits of her life from her grandparents but that's about it. We heard the other day that she is planning on moving out of state...and that she might attempt to take her children with her. Yes, that would be the twins and possibly the other little girl she had taken away. I had to sit the girls down this morning (including Juliet) and tell them that under no circumstances are they to get into any ones car except mine, daddy's or granna's. I had to tell them if she did come and talk to them that they were to go to the office or a teacher and tell them that someone was trying to take them, that if they did go with her they may never come home.

Can I tell you it literally breaks my heart and angers me beyond belief that I had to tell them that. That I had to tell them that a person who instinctively they are programed to want to go to is a danger, that a person who says they love and care for them can and will be a danger to them and to stay away at all cost. I even went as far as to tell them not to get into any of her family members cars (including the grandparents)...they love and trust these people and here I am having to tell them 'nope, they are not to be trusted' and go as far as to threaten them with 'you may not come home if you do go with them' to scare them into realization of how serious it is.

Its sad that a "mother" can do that to them. How dare she! How dare she put me on constant watch and on edge, how dare she make me teach the children they can't trust anyone, how dare she be so selfish. I will never understand this and frankly I'm pass the point of wanting to try to understand.

I just never thought I would have to have that talk.....never