Wednesday, November 18, 2009

A good woman

I had this poem forwarded to me...I had to share.

A Good Woman:

A good woman is proud of herself.
she respects herself and others.
She is aware of who she is.
She neither seeks definition form the person she is with,
nor does she expect them to read her mind.
she is quite capable of articulating her needs.

A good woman is hopeful.
She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true
She knows love, therefore she gives love.
She recognizes that her love has great value
and mus be reciprocated.
If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.

A good woman has a dash of inspiration,
a dabble of endurance.
she knows that she will, at times,
have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them.
A good woman knows her past,
understands her present and moves toward the future.

A good woman knows God.
She knows that with god the world is her playground,
but without God she will just be played.
A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past.
Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons,
meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.
Girl Smile....YOU KNOW YOU HAVE IT GOING ON!

Friday, November 13, 2009

Rewards vs Discipline

So for the last few weeks Juliet has been......stubborn is what we will call it. Juliet and I are very much alike so we are either best friends or at each others throats. I love her to pieces and I recognize that one: she is growing up and desperately wants to independent (that's how I am) and two: there have been a lot of changes in her life lately that are very hard for a four year old to process. so I've tried to be understanding and what not. But sometimes I get hardheaded too (who me? hardheaded? never right? hehe) and I lose my temper and yell.

so here is Juliet acting out and me yelling... not the best combination. The daycare told me the other day that she has been acting out at school too, to the point where she has to go to time out on her mat in a separate room. She just doesn't listen and when she does get in trouble it just rolls of her back like she's being told what color the sky is. She just doesn't' care or respond very well to discipline.

The daycare owner told me that for one of her kids she had to start doing the reward system. Stars to be exact. This is the plan we put into place. If she can go the whole day at daycare with out getting on the mat and go at home with out being put in the corner more then two times then she gets a star. If she gets stars for the whole week she gets to go to Gymnastics....if she gets stars for the whole month then she gets to go to a movie or someplace special.

I was sceptical....but we've been doing it for about a week and the difference (at least at home) is phenomenal. she listens, she's helpful and all I have to do is remind her about her stars and her attitude turns completely around...which makes me happy and less stressed, which I'm sure helps with both of our attitude problems (yes I have an attitude problem too....imagine that!)

I don't' know how long this will last but I hope for a while. :) Its making both of our lives a tad bit easier.

Friday, November 6, 2009

Bee's Honey

This is a conversation Juliet and I had on the way home from school on Wednesday. She cracks me up!

Juliet: Lara and I squished a bee today

Me: Oh ya, how come?

Juliet: It was trying to sting us so Lara waited till it rested on the ground and then she sneaked up to it and stomped on it with her foot. Then me and Ty squished it too

Me: Goodness

Juliet: Ya all its honey came out

Me: I don't' think that was honey babe. That was the bee's guts and blood most likely

(stop for thinking pause)

Juliet: So bee's don't pee out honey.....they make it?

Me: Yes

Juliet: giggling.....ewww I squished bee guts



Yup.....that's my daughter. Loves the color pink, dreams of being a princess, squishes bugs and picks up mice. Gotta love it.